Welcome to Behans Out — we’re so glad you found us.
This blog is a practical and personal guide to what it actually takes to move your family from the United States to Portugal — emotionally, logistically, and politically. We’re documenting the messy middle of saying goodbye to one version of life and stepping into another.
Whether you’re here because you’re dreaming of a big change or already knee-deep in planning your own escape route, you’re in the right place.
✨ What This Blog Is About
We write from the perspective of a progressive, LGBTQ+ family working toward a slower, more connected life — one filled with travel, growth, community, and less fear about the future. This space exists to:
- Share the real logistics of moving abroad with kids
- Offer support to others questioning life in the U.S.
- Help you imagine what’s possible when you follow your values off the beaten path
This is not a shiny “how to move abroad in 30 days” blog. It’s the real version — full of detours, doubts, small wins, and real talk about risk and reward.
🗺️ Where to Start
Here are a few key posts to get a feel for our story and our process so far:
- 🏳️🌈 Why We’re Leaving the U.S. — And Why It’s Not Just About Politics
- 🏫 How We Chose a School in Portugal for Our Kids
- 🛂 Visas, Curveballs, and One Very Last-Minute HR Meeting
- 💸 What We’re Keeping, What We’re Selling, and What We’re Learning-coming soon!
We update regularly with honest reflections, tactical advice, and things we wish we knew before we started.
👋 New Here? Start With Our Story
If you’d like to know more about who we are and why we’re doing this, head to our About Us page. It’s the full story — heartbreak, hope, and all the tiny moments that led to this big leap.
📬 Want Updates?
Want to follow along? We’ll send occasional updates as we go — real posts from real people navigating life in motion. If you’re planning your own move or just dreaming from the sidelines, we’d love to have you with us.
➡️ Join our Portugal adventure
❤️ Our Values
We are an unapologetically progressive family committed to:
- LGBTQ+ equality
- Reproductive justice
- Atheism without shame
- Racial and immigrant equity
- Raising kind, open-hearted kids in a global community
This blog won’t be for everyone — and that’s okay. But if any of this resonates with you, welcome. You belong here.
Let’s find something better — together.
– Kristy + family 💛